I’m Not Making Any Friends
When we found out 18 months ago that we would be moving to Newport, Rhode Island and that it would be for a mere 11 months, I immediately made the statment “I’m not making any friends there”. I was leaving behind some of the most amazing women and friends I made in Okinawa and knew there was no way anyone could compare to them and the good times we all had. Making friends while overseas is an entirely different experience and I also wasn’t ready to up and leave good friends like that again so soon.
Fast forward to late summer after we arrived in Newport and I thought I was doing a stellar job in the no friend category when I had someone call me out on such bullshit thoughts. My neighbor Kim is in Newport for 3 years total, but was quick to tell me I was dumb for not having a great time with friends in Newport too. She was right.
She introduced me to fellow Marine spouse during our first blizzard who also called me out on my BS. I’m hoping beyond hope that our paths cross next spring when they are leaving Newport.
Otherwise I would have missed out on some great and delicious dinners, lively and totally inappropriate conversations and super fun evenings out in the dead of a harsh, harsh winter.
My husband of all people linked me up with another amazingly awesome friend. For those that know Terry know that he is not so quick to make friends of his own, even when we are at a duty station for 2-3 years! He was in class with Jeanna’s husband and was grateful to have another “war fighter” in his midst with everyone else in his class. I loved Jeanna the minute I met her as most people I think do. She brought so many of us together this year and I’m grateful all these wonderful Army wives took in the lone Marine Corps wife for Wine Not Wednesdays and beyond. Such a great group of women who are amazing cooks, bartenders, wine experts….
Lest we not forget about the strong and wonderful Marine Corps wives, I am excited to get to head over to Germany with one of the first USMC wives I met when we got to Newport. The 4 of us were staples at many of the Marine Bulldog Thursday nights this year and I’m so grateful to have gotten to know them all. I could hang out and laugh all night with Jonelle and Jeff and will so miss them.
When in Rome, or in this case a Navy base, one must get to know some Navy wives too! In all honesty I’ve always felt at home with Navy wives since we’ve all been mixed together on Marine bases! I loved Betsy from the start too. She never takes herself too seriously, is completely inappropriate and is killer at an up do for a formal event. When she comes to Italy to visit me, I’ll have to make sure to train it on down there so she can find me…
Definitely a lesson learned. As long as I am able to find “my people” then it doesn’t matter how many months or years we’re in a location. These Fort Adams friends definitely made life in blustery New England a whole lot better!